The Long Con

My buddy Roo calls it The Dangle.
I call it just plain crappy.
The Dangle is a loosely termed phenomena in which the primary custodial parent has the ability to with hold,cancel and otherwise revoke visitation. There is seldom if ever a reasonable time put in place for this to occur. In essence it could be a day or more but not relegated to within an hour or even minutes before informing the non custodial parent their visitation has been cancelled.
The reason could be as innocuous or as threatening as custodial parent may wish as it most often has little bearing in the courts eyes.
The Dangle can also work in the opposite however.
This occurs when the PCP(notice my choice of initials), let’s you know with little notice in order to see your kids you must stop,drop&roll or the deals off.creating a tumultuous rise of emotions ranging from joy to guilt to fear to elation. As any time with my kids is prescious.
Therefore,a sense of constant distrust and borderline paranoia is created. But hey,the plus side is,after w6 years of this one may actually reach a state of hyper preparedness as well as a phone-book thick file of dates,times,occurrences,excuses,lost vacations,visitations,the non existent make up time. That the courts seem to regard as petty of your part and of small consequence since,
A) you are non custodial parent
B) have a penis
And if there is ever mention of this phenomena, it is almost instantly carried away on the gentle and bashful “aw shucks” breeze of batted eyelashes.
Resembling more of a Long Con than a phenomena.