Learning together on a snow day


I’d like to commend all of you who do not do the custody/divorce dance.
It’s a crappy tune,played on instruments that resemble certain body parts. Following upside down sheet music written in Braille..
Here’s hoping you’ve gotten a rough idea into the maelstrom of over indulgent courts to undeserving parents.
Now what this has to do with us having our first snow day ever together may seem a bit meandering.
So let’s not lose sight of the fact that tomorrow/today is our first snow day together ever,which is pretty excellent.
Too bad they’ve already had 2 snow days this week as well as another 6 since the end of winter break.
At 6&8 my kids can use as much academic reinforcement they can get.
Especially my boy(6), who is struggling a bit. I’m not as diligent as I ought to be but we try. Reading,writing,rhyming words… You’d think as some one who enjoys reading&writing I’d be a better teacher,but I get frustrated too. Am I confusing him trying to make learning easier? Do I push harder or am I pushing too hard? Is he lazy? Is it because he has issues beyond my control,ADD,Dyslexia? He does exhibit signs but that doesn’t mean he can’t learn. I know several people who are very successful who are dyslexic,it can be done. His teachers notice,but it’s not their soul responsibility,we all need to do our part.
May the last conference I had with his teacher his mom barged in and started ranting about the school not helping enough,he’s not getting enough attention.. Then she started throwing out a series of what her tone implied as capital letters to agencies and big wigs she was threatening to call do to their short comings. When their main topic of conversation when I pick them up is what they saw on TV.
When asked what letters, words he’s working on in school he gets evasive and confused reverting back to his Psych and other of his favorite shows he watches at Nana’s and Mom’s.
So it’s clear even in my unstructured study regiment,it’s more than some are doing. And we have the least amount of time together.
It may be easier to blame others for his learning or lack of but that doesn’t remove me from my obligations as a parent. He is a fine,articulate creative and loving boy. His road may be long, and not one he can run or skip down but he can still reach his destination with confidence and pride in the effort it takes to get there.
I know he can learn. Wishing others would be more proactive won’t make it so.
For instance,I wish he had learned to tie his shoes before his mom bought him a motorcycle that he wrecked the same day leaving him covered in bruises because he was not provided any of the standard safety gear sans helmet before his maiden voyage.
But wishing won’t change what happened. I wish his mom would have have read to him in the womb and all through infancy as she did our daughter who is excelling at school and loves to read as that may have changed his learning capacity but that was then and all my wishing won’t change that.
What may help to change things is the 45 minutes he& I spent today reading Hop on Pop and writing rhyming words and practicing letters on our very first snow day together ever. And all the other times we spend trying to figure this out together. As a team,as a family.
Now off to enjoy the rest of the day practicing our having fun techniques!!
I love you Rees kids,I’m proud to be your Dad. I believe in you!

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